2 days after turning 20 kind of post

I’ve finally come to a point of realization where i will not change my nature, eventho people might call me stupid or fake, for being genuinely nice and for letting people screw me over and take advantage of me. People can talk shits behind my back, stab me & as a normal human being, of course i’d be pissed, i'd be hurt. But after sometime, after i talked about it, cried and write my feelings down in form of words, i would still forgive them, and treat them nicely. Because i am happy doing that and i have no particular loss whatsoever. It doesn't cost you anything to be nice.  


I don't think anything is ever worth cutting ties for. Be it family ties, friendship, relationship, especially because of arguments and misunderstandings. Because everything can be fixed. But different people have difference perspective and limits. So do know your limits. If the tie you have is unhealthy & toxic, there's no harm to remove it. 


Of course i know when do i have to stand up for myself. If it’s necessary and if it doesn’t hurt people, i will speak my mind, but considerately. We tend to say things we don’t mean when we’re angry. That’s why the best thing to do when you’re pissed is to shut up. You can’t take back what you’ve said. Of course you can tell people off if you’re not happy with what they’re saying about you or the way they're judging you, because in a way, it’s unfair to let people think that they have the freedom to say whatever they want about you, and simply assume that you'll be fine with it, cause you're nice anyways. It's wrong to just accept people talking shit about you. If it doesn't bother you, then let it slide. If you're pissed, confront them, but do it the right way. Don't talk shits back to them. There is no need to stoop so low.


Tell them it's hurting you, and that you're affected by it. There's no harm to be affected by people's word and judgements. As invincible as we wish we could be, and as much as we wish we don't give a shit, bro, we got this thing called feelings, and words still hurts. But if you're not the type to confront, ask someone else to say it for you. Let them know that what they're doing is wrong. 


"I wish i was more assertive"
"I wish i was bitchy. I wish i could just tell people off savagely"


Those were some sentences i used to say. But now, i wish i could stay as just me.


If you feel like people are walking all over you, taking advantage of you, bullying you, manipulate you, stand up for yourself. Tell them off. But then again, do it your way, the right way. Assertiveness is fine, but never be rude. Bitchiness is fine, but only at a limit. Remember there's a fine line to everything. 






People have said shit about me and i’d be lying to say it didn’t hurt, but why do i have to hurt them back with words similar like theirs? I’d rather be nice, "kill them with kindness" in a way, and make them regret to ever say such thing. They'll feel guilty, naturally.  It takes a lot of maturity to disregard things that hurt you. It's fine, you're still growing up and you'll reach there soon. If you already are, kudos to you sir!





If you’re genuinely happy doing what you do, keep doing it, eventhough some may perceive you as hypocritical or fake. Sometimes, there's no need to explain yourself. It's tiring to correct people's perception of you. As long as you know your true intention, that'll suffice.


Always see the best in people, even if they’re being two faced. We never truly know people’s genuine intention, and it’s never fair to assume. The world needs more people like you. Block negativities, spread positiveness. Always


If  you’re a kind person, stay kind. There’s no need to change.


This is very general and just me merely speaking my mind, and i have the rights and allowed to do so.